Advice – Becoming a secondary partner.
My polyamorous partner decided we should be secondary partners instead. How can I manage my feelings in this new transition?
Advice – How can I manage a transition from a secondary relationship to a co-primary relationship?
I realized during this COVID quarantine that my boyfriend means a lot more to me than I originally thought. While my husband and I theoretically practiced non-hierarchical polyamory, we’ve never had to put that theory into practice. So what can I expect as my relationships become more egalitarian?
Advice – My former coworker doesn’t know that my partner and I have a polyamorous relationship.
My former coworker revealed that he would have liked to date me in different circumstances. What he doesn’t know is that I am actually polyamorous. How can I sort through my own feelings and manage this without hurting anyone’s feelings?
Advice – Am I polyamorous?
I’m currently single and I have been thinking a lot more about exploring and pursuing non-monogamy. How can I be a part of a closed triad or a quad?
Advice – My nesting partner keeps on going out to meet new partners despite the stay-at-home orders.
My nesting partner keeps on disregarding my own personal boundary and the current stay-at-home orders to go see her other partners. I feel like she prioritizes cuddling and having sex with her other partners over my currently immunocompromised health. What should I do?
Advice – My metamour hates me. How can I feel compersion again?
My metamour recently established a boundary that I am no longer welcome in their shared house, following our first vacation together. My boyfriend and I are both stumped on how to manage this. How can I feel compersion toward my boyfriend’s marriage again?
Advice – I am feeling very jealous about my partner’s new partner.
I recently ended things with one partner because my metamour made the relationship with our shared partner impossible to maintain. And now my other partner is interested in pursuing a relationship with my former metamour. I am feeling so incredibly jealous and insecure about their budding connection. How can I better manage my feelings?
Advice – How do I have better sex? (NSFW)
I have only ever orgasmed with one past partner. Both my husband and my boyfriend each think that sex ends when they orgasm. How can I have a better sex life with each of my partners?
Advice – My partner slept with someone before I had a chance to meet her. Am I the asshole?
My primary partner slept with his girlfriend before I had an opportunity to meet her even though this was a preexisting agreement between us. I am angry with both of them. Am I the asshole for feeling upset?
Advice – Prioritization in polyamorous relationships.
My polyamorous relationship has grown and changed a lot in the past five years. But I am struggling to feel prioritized in my relationship even though it is by default non-hierarchical. Is this a problem that I need to focus on? How can I manage these feelings of insecurity?
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