My metamour recently established a boundary that I am no longer welcome in their shared house, following our first vacation together. My boyfriend and I are both stumped on how to manage this. How can I feel compersion toward my boyfriend’s marriage again?
I recently ended things with one partner because my metamour made the relationship with our shared partner impossible to maintain. And now my other partner is interested in pursuing a relationship with my former metamour. I am feeling so incredibly jealous and insecure about their budding connection. How can I better manage my feelings?
My polyamorous relationship has grown and changed a lot in the past five years. But I am struggling to feel prioritized in my relationship even though it is by default non-hierarchical. Is this a problem that I need to focus on? How can I manage these feelings of insecurity?
My wife and I have an open phone policy where we can read each other’s text conversations at will. It is making me feel uncomfortable because my new partner shared something vulnerable with me that I don’t think she would want my wife to read. Is this normal for other poly couples as well?
My monogamous boyfriend made out with my monogamous metamour in a state of inebriation. I feel so confused and betrayed. Is this considered cheating?
“My partner John [29M] and I [23F] have been together for around 4 years, we’ve been poly from the start. We’ve both seen other people on and off and been able to work out boundaries comfortably before. Recently I’ve started talking to and getting involved (sexually, not romantically) with our […]
“I have been questioning whether I was truly poly or not for sometime. So I started dating someone who has a personal history with polyamory to gauge that orientation for myself. I really enjoy our relationship and my metamour very, very much. However, I also started dating a second person […]
“Here’s my situation: I’m a bisexual cis-woman in my mid 20s who started dating a queer cis-man several years older than me. We’ve been together for a few years now. I had never heard of polyamory until I met him. He introduced me to The Ethical Slut and it changed […]
“My current poly situation: 31F with multiple separate and distinct partners (each heterosexual males with no interest in meeting each other, two new relationships within the last few weeks, one long-term partner who I was monogamous with first before breaking up and getting back together as poly). My problem: Time […]
Anonymous writes… “I have a situation that I’m unsure how to feel about and that makes it difficult to decide my actions. I’ve been married for ten years, we’ve been poly for not quite two years. During the first 1.5 years they dated and I did not, they never got […]