Advice – Managing relationship burnout.
Both my nesting partner and my boyfriend decided not to see anyone else other than me. As a polyamorous hinge to two monogamous partners, how can I make sure that I don’t burn out on my relationships?
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Advice – Can my marriage be salvaged?
My spouse and I have hit a very turbulent stretch in our relationship following a very traumatic experience. My spouse is in denial about the degree of betrayal in his boundary violations, and cannot take responsibility to heal and recover. How can I salvage this relationship? Is this even salvageable?
Advice – How do I have better sex? (NSFW)
I have only ever orgasmed with one past partner. Both my husband and my boyfriend each think that sex ends when they orgasm. How can I have a better sex life with each of my partners?
Advice – How can I be sexier for my boyfriend?
My boyfriend keeps on calling me cute and adorable. I want to be sexy instead. How can I get out of my headspace about sexual confidence to feel more sexy in my own skin?
Advice – What is the common etiquette regarding open phone policies?
My wife and I have an open phone policy where we can read each other’s text conversations at will. It is making me feel uncomfortable because my new partner shared something vulnerable with me that I don’t think she would want my wife to read. Is this normal for other poly couples as well?
Advice – My girlfriend revealed something about her past. [NSFW]
[TW: Sexual violence, drug use.] /u/creepythrow351 on /r/relationship_advice writes… “My girlfriend [27F] and I [32M] have been together for three years now. Last weekend decided to do molly at home and during the trip she told me to ask her anything because she’ll be 100% honest. This caught me off […]
Advice – My boyfriend isn’t as out about his polyamory as I believed.
I communicated with my current boyfriend early on that I will not be in a romantic relationship with someone who isn’t out to everyone in his life, and thus cannot properly do poly relationships. Over a miscommunication, I found out he wasn’t as out as he said he was. Am I making too much out of this disconnect?
Advice – Our triad is breaking up.
My partner is planning on breaking up with my other partner in our triad. I’m struggling with the amount of emotional labor that lie ahead. How can I weather this storm for each of our partner? Should I break up with my other partner as well?
Advice – My partner is moving too fast in dating his other partner.
Two weeks ago, my husband quickly developed a connection with a woman he met. He realized he was polyamorous and communicated as such. But he is going way too fast for my own comfort. How can I properly communicate my discomfort?
Advice – Backsliding in a non-monogamous relationship.
My husband and I opened up our relationship when he developed a crush for his coworker. Ever since then, his coworker/FWB has degraded the quality of my marriage. My tanking self-esteem is making it really hard for me to advocate for my own needs. How can I course-correct?
