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Advice – Issues with gag reflex [NSFW]

/u/throwaway18966062 on /r/sex writes…

“So this is horribly embarrassing so of course I go to the internet. I was with a guy recently and he was face fucking me and I threw up a little. I wasn’t able to catch it in my mouth and some got on him. Totally ruined the moment and we ended our evening trist. He was cool about it, but grossed out, I totally understand. But I was mortified.

I love giving bj’s but I notice my gag reflex is pretty shallow. So he makes me gag, fine but after a while constant gagging is going to bring stuff up. I want to be able to deep throat without this happening again. Has anyone had this happen and maybe have some tips?”

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Dear throwaway18966062,

I deeply admire your enthusiasm for blowjobs and deep throating. Deep throating in specific is a very tricky but incredible rewarding practice. It sounds like you encountered an issue with either your partner going too fast or your gag reflex being too strong. There are a couple decent workarounds to this.

He can go slower. If you feel like your gag reflex is too strong and it’s constantly being triggered by how fast and hard he is going, you can absolutely just ask him to go a bit slower or not go as hard next time. Vomiting from gag reflex is closely related to how frequently it is triggered. So his speed should help a lot with mitigating that risk in the future. I’m sure he doesn’t want vomit anywhere near his dick either. So it’d be a win win.

But more importantly, you can put your fingers or hand at the base of his penis as you are deep throating him. If he wants additional sensation, you can lube up your palm or fingers with any water-based lube or saliva so that the sensation extends to his base as well. A lot of guys don’t feel that kind of sensation down by the base of their penis so “extending” the length of your mouth through your hands could be a very viable (and pleasurable) alternative for him as well.

Or you can always just do the grapefruit method.

Good luck!

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